50 First Dates

Relationships start off hot and steamy. But what happens after a year, 7 years or 20 years? Has it started to fizzle. Do you greet your mate in sweats, no make up and messy hair. While that is great and everybody should be themselves, as we are all beautiful in our own natural way. Sometimes we can all get a little too complacent.

Remember that feeling when you first met? How you wanted to know everything about each other and would talk until sunrise? You couldn’t keep your hands off each other and wanted to be near each other, taking in each other’s scent.

 

 

Well you can recapture those feelings with a little imagination. Make it a first date with your long time partner. Take a long shower and put in the extra effort you would if you were going to be intimate for the first time. You want to be smooth and smell delicious. Maybe put a special touch on your makeup or hairstyle and choose a sexy, flattering outfit that will keep his eyes on you.

 

Set up a date and pretend that he is picking you up for the first time. Take in his scent, explore him with your eyes, sit close to him and feel his energy. Ask those questions you would ask on a first date, those get-to-know-you questions that allow him to open up. Even though you think you know everything about him by now, there is always something more to know. New things happen every day in his life and there are probably things in his past that have not been explored. Hold your eye contact and use touch to keep things intimate.

 

 

 

Don’t just jump in the sack when you get home. Pretend it is the first time that you two will be together. Have him undress you slowly. Take the time to kiss a lot and use lots of foreplay before getting to the big moment. And indulge in lots of cuddling afterwards to keep things intimate.

These first dates may seem simple but they really work in re-igniting the flame that burned so brightly in the past. Every smoldering fire needs a little spark now and then to keep the embers burning! Come on baby, light his fire!

Learn The Trick

Often called Trich, Trichomoniasis is an STD that affects the vagina as well as the walls of the urethra. It affects both men and women and sometimes there are no symptoms, making this a “tricky” infection to detect.

Trich is caused by a microscopic parasite, affecting about 174 million people worldwide, but is also the most curable STD worldwide. The 15mm trichomonad is not visible to the naked eye and reproduces itself every eight to twelve hours.

While one third of women infected with Trich do not experience symptoms, those that do should watch for vaginal itching, smelly, itchy and frothy or foamy discharge that is bubbly, yellow or grayish green in color. Pain with urination is often a symptom as well.

A pelvic exam is the best way to detect Trich. If you do not have symptoms, the infection will be picked upon your regular check ups, so be sure to have your annual gynecological exam. If you do have symptoms, an appointment should be set up right away.

Flagyl (Metronidazole), taken twice a day orally for seven days, is the treatment of choice, unless a woman is in the first trimester of pregnancy, in which case Clortimazome would be prescribed to be inserted into the vagina at night for 14 days. The cure rate with this treatment is only 20%, but it does decrease the symptoms until a woman enters the second trimester and if the infection is still there she can then be treated with Flagyl. There are large single doses of Flagyl available as an alternative to a 7 day treatment but can cause nausea and vomiting. Drinking alcohol while taking Flagyl can lead to vomiting and abdominal pain, and highly advised against.

Prevention is the best medicine. Trichomonads survive for up to 45 minutes outside the body. So while Trich is considered a sexually transmitted disease, you can also catch it if you come in contact with the parasite from towels, swimsuits, etc. The best way to prevent Trich is to always make sure your partner wears a condom, wash after intercourse, do not share swimsuits and towels, and shower immediately after swimming in a public pool.

Queen of Queefs

Q: I queef a lot after sex and sometimes during. It’s embarrassing. Is it normal?

 

A: Queefing is completely normal and is the result of hard thrusting. When a mans penis is pushed into the vagina, air gets pushed in as well. The harder he pumps, especially if he pulls all the way out and in again, the more air goes in. You may want to ask him to slow down a bit and shorten the in and out motion.  Try other positions than missionary, as this position, with your legs up, can cause the most queefing.  But don’t worry about it and let is cause you to lose pleasure in sex. Believe me, he has experienced it before.

Your Favorite Jewel

I’ve heard of wearing flowers in your hair, but wearing your vagina around your neck?

Pussy Whipped

With 1000 ways to die – did you think having your guy take care of your pussy would be one of them?

 

 

The Threesome Double Standard

It’s no secret that most men dream of a threesome. But that threesome has a double standard. While men would love to engage in a manage a trois with two women and himself, the alternative idea of one woman and himself with another guy is a lot less appealing. In fact, it is often something that they will never entertain.

It makes sense when you consider the double standard we seem to have regarding gays. Two women together is much more accepted than two men together. In fact, in the last twenty years it has become common to enter a night club and see straight women kissing or touching each other. But if we were to see the same thing happening with two men, it would not be well received and would be totally unaccepted.

The reason stems from straight man homophobia. Most men believe that being gay is unmanly. They also believe that one gay experience makes them gay. Whereas a woman is allowed to experiment and still be considered straight, if a man does the same he is deemed gay or at least bi-sexual.

While a male dominant threesome does not in any way determine the participant’s sexual orientation, men are so deeply programmed with notions of being considered.

Add to that the fact that men are penis size conscious. Will he have a larger penis than me? Is a thought that goes through their head, compounding the problem. And last, men are far less affectionate to each other in general. While women will often hug when they see each other and have no problem showing love for each other, men use handshakes and pats on the back.

So it looks like the female dominant threesome is still the more widely accepted notion. What does that say about women. Well it may say that we are much more sexually evolved.

 

 

 

Your Clam

The next time your vagina is referred to as your clam – remember how truly beautiful and delicious the clam is . . . and delight in the compliment!

Genital Warts and HPV

Human Papillomavirus (HPV) is the most commonly sexually transmitted disease (STD). Approximately 20 million Americas currently have the virus and 6 million people become infected each year.  It is estimated that 50% of sexually active people carry the virus. It can often go undetected with no apparent symptoms, while others may experience the presence of genital warts. While most people are concerned about the appearance of warts and how it affects the aesthetics of their genital area, the virus can cause much more serious health problems.

Human Papilloma is directly linked to cervial cancer in women as well as cancer of the vulva, vagina, anus, penis, head, neck, tongue, throat and tonsils.

The good news for those who do get genital warts is that the HPV that causes them to appear is typically not the same HPV that causes cancer. But there is not way to know which of those infected with the virus will go on to develop cancer or other health problems.

Genital warts generally appear as a single bump or a cluster of bumps that have can be raised with a cauliflower shape or lay flat on the skin. You can contract warts from a partner who shows no signs of warts but carries the virus.

The only way to detect HPV in those without genital warts is through regula doctor visits. A pap smear will show the presence of the virus and can find any early changes that can be treated before it turns into cancer.

HPV is transmitted by vaginal and anal sex as well as oral sex. HPV can also be passed onto your baby if you are pregnant and infected with the virus. While condoms are a safe and effective way to ward of STD’s, HPV can still affect areas around the condom such as the testicles that may make contact with areas of the vagina or anus. A good preventative measure is the vaccine Guardisil and Cervarix that are available to protect against cervical cancer. There is no approved screening to detect early signs of penile cancer but a pap test of the anus can be used to detect the virus in gay or bi-sexual men.

Treatment once infected is removal of genital warts through freezing or burning. There are various treatments for removal of changing cells, called dysplasia, in the cervix. Depending on the level, treatment can range from burning or freezing the affected area of the cervix or loop surgery where a small portion of the tip of the cervix is removed.

 

Linea Nigra

Q: I’ve noticed this dark line from under my belly button to my pubic bone. I never had it before and am concerned.

A: This dark line is called Linea Nigra and typically makes its appearance during pregnancy. Changing hormones cause a hyperpigmentation that makes a trail from the belly button to the pubic bone. There are cases of women reporting Linea Nigra who have not been pregnant and some physicians relate this to insulin changes. If you have been pregnant, this is perfectly normal. If you have not, it couldn’t hurt to check with your doctor.

The Vagina Catalogues

Who needs the Vagina Monologues when you have the Vagina Catalogues . . . watch as we learn that there are two things that go inside our vaginas!