Breaking up is hard to do. . .especially if you are still in love with your ex. So how do you get your ex back? Well the first thing to do is to gain control over your emotions. Acting with your heart, instead of using your head, can give you the opposite result. Once you’ve decided you want your ex back, instead of rushing to make a phone call or send a text/email professing your love, instead take a step back and ask yourself these questions. -Is it he or she that you want back or are you just feeling lonely?
What was the reason for the breakup?
How long were you together?
Is he or she with another person now?
Sometimes when we break up, we are so used to having a significant person in our lives, especially if you dated for a long time. We just feel lonely, but it’s not something that a good friend, or even a date with the right person, can’t cure. So make sure it’s the person you miss and not the companionship. Next, consider the reason you broke up and if that reason can be reconciled. If he or she cheated on you, chances are it could happen again? How would you deal with that? And if your ex has moved on with another person, consider that fact when attempting to get them back.
Remember that the initial phase of a relationship is always elating and it may be better to wait until some of that infatuation has worn off before you go after him or her again. Once you have gone decided that you can’t live without your ex and that it really is them that you want back, make a checklist of all the things that he or she loved about you. . .a certain way you dressed, a certain thing you did, a certain place you went together, a certain scent you wore, etc.
Using that list, set out to make him or here want you back by purposely bumping into him in a public place. When you see him or her, appear happy and secure. Make eye contact and talk about something that you know he or she is interested in. Never mention getting back together, but instead when the conversation is in a good place, touch their arm and tell them that you miss all the good times you shared, then walk away. Ending it with him or her wanting more, having your scent on them and seeing how happy you are, is a sure fire way to set his or her heart afire once again.